Significant Other

Don't Call Me a Lesbian

A Significant Other View
by Julie Freeman

This article is reprinted here with permission from DEVIL WOMAN, the Diablo Valley Girls newsletter. Ms Freeman is the wife of a crossdresser. She can be reached at Julie39@comcast.net

Don't Call Me a Lesbian

It seems that one of the greatest fears that significant others voice is that of becoming a lesbian. Just how do they see this happening? By simply in any way shape or form somehow letting crossdressing into their lives. This fear is very real and very prevalent, usually voiced by wives newly discovering their husbands' femme side. They believe that their husbands, when crossdressed, somehow are no longer the man they knew and married, but have somehow turned into a woman. They believe that by becoming accepting in any way, no matter how small, that turns them into a lesbian. Forget the fact that they are not attracted to women and have never been. Just having another nightgown in bed with them does the trick!

And their hatred of lesbianism is v...
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A Matter of Respect

A Significant Other View
by Julie Freeman

This article is reprinted here with permission from DEVIL WOMAN, the Diablo Valley Girls' newsletter. Ms Freeman is the wife of a crossdresser. She can be reached at Julie39@comcast.net

A Matter of Respect

I have always wondered why crossdressers want to be like women. Haven't they observed how women are treated in our culture? It is acceptable for men to be forceful and even demanding - it is called being assertive. For women, if they are forceful, it is called being aggressive and is considered unsatisfactory. This double standard is accepted not only by men, but also by women.

Have you ever watched a news show such as Inside Washington or the McLaughlin Report? Perhaps you noticed that the women are interrupted frequently by the male panel members, not allowed to finish their thoughts when allowed to speak, and are generally ignored when trying to make their viewpoint known. Sometimes they are even laughed at, almost like they are "cute child...
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What Wives Fear

A Significant Other View
by Julie Freeman

This article is reprinted here with permission from DEVIL WOMAN, the Diablo Valley Girls newsletter. Ms Freeman is the wife of a crossdresser. She can be reached at Julie39@comcast.net

What Wives Fear

I am sure all of you have read about Peter Oiler, the truck driver who was fired because his company learned about his crossdressing. Now mind you Mr. Oiler did not come to work crossdressed nor was he parading around his neighborhood. He was simply crossdressing in the privacy of his own home. But when rumors of his being gay circulated around the company and Mr. Oiler asked management to stop the rumors, management asked why that bothered him. He replied, "Because I'm not gay. I'm transgendered." The company, believing that its image would be compromised by having an employee who crossdressed, asked him to resign and eventually fired him.

This is the kind of situation that wives live in dread of happening to them. This fear of a husband losi...
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Coming Out

A Significant Other View
by Julie Freeman

This article is reprinted with permission from DEVIL WOMAN, the Diablo Valley Girls newsletter. Ms Freeman is the wife of a crossdresser. She can be reached at Julie39@comcast.net

Coming Out

We all know how exciting it is for the crossdresser when he comes out of the closet he has been in for so long. He no longer has to fear a member of his family finding his "special" clothes, shoes, wigs, etc. He no longer has to crossdress when his family is out of the house and hope that no one returns early. He no longer has to fear someone answering the telephone at the wrong time; he no longer worries that someone may discover he has been frequenting web sites concerned with gender matters.

No longer concerned about hiding his "secret" he experiences a euphoria that expresses itself in a variety of ways that may frustrate and confound his significant other.

He may now feel he can dress at home whenever he pleases. He may feel he can go "out" crossdressed whenever...
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A Friend

A Significant Other View
by Julie Freeman

This article is reprinted with permission from DEVIL WOMAN, the Diablo Valley Girls newsletter. Ms Freeman is the wife of a crossdresser. She can be reached at Julie39@comcast.net

 
A Friend

About a year and a half ago I was reintroduced to the cousin of a very close friend of mine. We had actually been introduced over 30 years ago, but neither of us remembers much about that introduction. However, when we decided to meet for lunch, we both recognized each other immediately even though so much time had elapsed.

We quickly became fast friends and began to see each other frequently. Very early on, I told her about Donna (my husband). And this surprised even me! I have known others for many more years and I would never think to tell them about my husband's crossdressing for a variety of reasons -- the usual reasons we significant others choose not to tell. But for some reason is was different with "D." I knew she would be suppo...
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