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Admiration


A Significant Other View
by Julie Freeman

August 2013
Posted here by permission on January 26, 2017

Admiration

I have the upmost admiration for those wives and partners who with compassion and understanding accept their husband's transsexualism/transgenderism. We all know these women; they are the ones that scare significant others, particularly those new to crossdressing, for they are venturing into that part of genderland that most of us are unwilling and reluctant to go. They are the ladies that appear on panels or talk shows with "husbands" now living FULL TIME as women, some having had surgery (post-op transsexuals), others not (pre-op transsexuals or transgenderists).
These are the wives who have made the decision to let their families and friends know that their lives are now going to be quite different. Once a couple, now two ladies. If there are children involved, they will need to deal with the strong emotions and intense feelings as the children begin to...
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Normal Human Condition

A Significant Other View
by Julie Freeman


April 27, 2007

Normal Human Condition

When significant others first find about their husbands’ crossdressing, they complain of what we call “the kid in the candy store” syndrome. Their husbands, newly out of the closet, just can’t seem to get enough of their newfound freedom and are driving their wives crazy with their continual talk of makeup, clothes, wigs, etc. They are hogging the Internet, looking for crossdressing websites, spending money right and left on female accoutrements, and attending gender activities that may interfere and interrupt their normal family activities.

Over time, the crossdresser settles down a bit as he becomes aware that he no longer will be forced back into the closet and in many cases his concerns about family help to moderate his social activities and expenses.

With this moderation may come a more positive attitude towards the crossdressing...
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Contributing to the Change

A Significant Other View
by Julie Freeman


June 8, 2009


Editor's Note: Ms Freeman is the long time wife of a crossdresser. Her column "A Significant Other View" appears regularly in Devil Woman. She has given permission to reprint what follows.

Contributing to the Change

As many of you know, I belong to an on-line support group for wives and partners of transgendered individuals. This group ranges from women who are completely supportive and understanding of their partner's transgenderism to those who are hostile, repulsed, and completely intolerant. Most are somewhere between the two extremes, so emails can flow hot and heavy as viewpoints are debated, questioned, argued, and even ridiculed. Emotions run high, and it is rare indeed when anyone can look at an issue completely dispassionately.

Currently, the theory being suggested by those more unforgiving of their partner's transgenderism is the belief that those wives who support their husbands may in ...
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Be Aware of Experts

A Significant Other View
by Julie Freeman

This article is reprinted with permission from DEVIL WOMAN, the Diablo Valley Girls newsletter. Ms Freeman is the wife of a crossdresser. She can be reached at Julie39@comcast.net

Beware of Experts

Posted Jan 13, 2014

Several weeks ago, I watched a Dr. Phil show where he was talking about "gender-confused children." His goal was to help parents learn what to do when faced with a transgendered child.

On the one side, he had two "experts" who theorized that transgenderism was a phase and could be "cured." They also believed that not only is gender-change a choice, but homosexuality as well. They emphasized that mothers were largely responsible for their children desiring to be the opposite sex (over-involved is their terminology). And especially single mothers where there was no obvious male influence. Parents need to guide their children away from what they consider just a phase. They want the mother to back off (their ...
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Denial

A Significant Other View
by Julie Freeman


This article is reprinted with permission from DEVIL WOMAN, the Diablo Valley Girls newsletter. Ms Freeman is the wife of a crossdresser. She can be reached at Julie39@comcast.net

Posted Jan 13, 2014

Denial

For the past few months, I have been receiving a lot of emails from significant others who suspect that their partners may be crossdressers. Some of them have even asked their partners whether they are crossdressers and their partners either won't answer them or deny they crossdress. But for many of them, there is evidence --receipts for clothes, makeup, and jewelry, secret telephone calls, access to Internet websites, weekend disappearances, etc., etc. When one wife asked her husband about removal of body hair, he said his hair had become brittle and he had too many ingrown hairs.

These wives searched for information on the Internet which led them to reading my articles and eventually led them to communicate with me. It see...
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