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What Wives Fear

A Significant Other View
by Julie Freeman

This article is reprinted here with permission from DEVIL WOMAN, the Diablo Valley Girls newsletter. Ms Freeman is the wife of a crossdresser. She can be reached at Julie39@comcast.net

What Wives Fear

I am sure all of you have read about Peter Oiler, the truck driver who was fired because his company learned about his crossdressing. Now mind you Mr. Oiler did not come to work crossdressed nor was he parading around his neighborhood. He was simply crossdressing in the privacy of his own home. But when rumors of his being gay circulated around the company and Mr. Oiler asked management to stop the rumors, management asked why that bothered him. He replied, "Because I'm not gay. I'm transgendered." The company, believing that its image would be compromised by having an employee who crossdressed, asked him to resign and eventually fired him.

This is the kind of situation that wives live in dread of happening to them. This fear of a husband losi...
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Coming Out

A Significant Other View
by Julie Freeman

This article is reprinted with permission from DEVIL WOMAN, the Diablo Valley Girls newsletter. Ms Freeman is the wife of a crossdresser. She can be reached at Julie39@comcast.net

Coming Out

We all know how exciting it is for the crossdresser when he comes out of the closet he has been in for so long. He no longer has to fear a member of his family finding his "special" clothes, shoes, wigs, etc. He no longer has to crossdress when his family is out of the house and hope that no one returns early. He no longer has to fear someone answering the telephone at the wrong time; he no longer worries that someone may discover he has been frequenting web sites concerned with gender matters.

No longer concerned about hiding his "secret" he experiences a euphoria that expresses itself in a variety of ways that may frustrate and confound his significant other.

He may now feel he can dress at home whenever he pleases. He may feel he can go "out" crossdressed whenever...
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A Friend

A Significant Other View
by Julie Freeman

This article is reprinted with permission from DEVIL WOMAN, the Diablo Valley Girls newsletter. Ms Freeman is the wife of a crossdresser. She can be reached at Julie39@comcast.net

 
A Friend

About a year and a half ago I was reintroduced to the cousin of a very close friend of mine. We had actually been introduced over 30 years ago, but neither of us remembers much about that introduction. However, when we decided to meet for lunch, we both recognized each other immediately even though so much time had elapsed.


We quickly became fast friends and began to see each other frequently. Very early on, I told her about Donna (my husband). And this surprised even me! I have known others for many more years and I would never think to tell them about my husband's crossdressing for a variety of reasons -- the usual reasons we significant others choose not to tell. But for some reason is was different with "D." I knew she would be suppo...
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SO Comfort Zone

A Significant Other View
by Julie Freeman

This article is reprinted with permission from DEVIL WOMAN, the Diablo Valley Girls newsletter. Ms Freeman is the wife of a crossdresser. She can be reached at Julie39@comcast.net

 
Comfort Zone

When communicating with other significant others, I find a wide variety of acceptance levels. Some wives are totally non-accepting. They are hostile, angry, upset, and just about ready to walk out the door! They are disgusted with their husbands' activities and are in no frame of mind to listen to them or those of us who are more accepting. At the other end are those wives who are totally accepting. They love their husbands dearly and whatever the husband does is fine with them. They find it hard to understand those who cannot or will not support their husbands.


And then between those extremes are the vast majority who are not hostile, but are not totally supportive either. These wives are willing to listen to both sides and seem to appreciate...
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Ultimatums

A Significant Other View
by Julie Freeman

Orignally published in "Devil Woman" in April 2015
Republished here by permission Februay 2017

Ultimatums

It seems that we have always lived in a world of ultimatums, but perhaps not as alarming and dire as we are discovering today.
Issuing ultimatums is not new. People have been threatening each other for years. Parents threatened their children with harsh punishment if duties were not carried out. Teachers threatened to fail their students if homework was not completed.
When going to church, we were subjected to sermons which capitalized on our fears by predicting doom and destruction wrought by a vengeful and heartless God if we did not do what that particularly religion preached.
Even good friends had falling outs over trivial issues. Family members quit speaking to each other. Business colleagues plotted revenge against those they believed wronged them.
But for the most part, ultimatums in the past did not seem quite s...
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