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Breaking My Heart

A Significant Other View
by Julie Freeman

Originally published April 2014
Reposted here by permission on Jan 28, 2017

Breaking My Heart

Over the years, I have heard from many significant others. It continues to amaze me how many women still know very little about crossdressing. The usual scenario revolves around a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship where the girlfriend is told after the relationship has deepened that her boyfriend, occasionally, likes to wear women's clothes. Not on a regular basis and most often never outside the home - whether it is his or theirs.
For awhile, this particular girlfriend (B) reported she took the crossdressing in stride although she never used any terms associated with the gender community. Usually the crossdressing starts with panties and that is about it for a few weeks. Then slowly the crossdressing increases to bras, stockings, and nightgowns, but, again, still in the house, usually the bedroom.
Although (B) thought this behavior was a bit odd, it ...
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Secrets

A Significant Other View
by Julie Freeman


Originaly published in "Devil Woman" May 1993
Republished here by permission February 2017

Secrets

One word that every CD knows is "secret." It is also known by many SO's. When I found out about my husband's crossdressing, I was very concerned about who knew our "secret." I was not one for shouting from the rooftops or walking down Main St., probably the result of having a very outgoing, extroverted father. Understandable as he is to me now, as a child it was difficult.
So when we told our children about the crossdressing, we asked that they keep it within our immediate family. There was no reason for anyone else to know. We had discussed this issue with other couples prior to my telling our children and many of them also shared our belief that crossdressing should remain within the family. Another SO reminded me that once you tell someone, you can never take it back. So be careful whom you tell.
So fo...
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Self Esteem

A Significant Other View
by Julie Freeman


This article is reprinted with permission from DEVIL WOMAN, the Diablo Valley Girls newsletter. Ms Freeman is the wife of a crossdresser. She can be reached at Julie39@comcast.net

Self Esteem

When significant others first find out about their partners' crossdressing, many believe at first they have somehow failed their partners. In some way, they must not be satisfactory or there would be no need for the crossdressing. Many times they believe they can "cure" the crossdressing if they somehow just do a better job at being a wife. When this does not work, as it won't, their self-esteem plummets and sometimes jealousy of the crossdressed persona may develop. As the crossdresser becomes more adept with makeup and wigs, as his wardrobe expands, and he becomes more attractive, her feelings of worth and significance may dwindle even more.

She may begin to rage at her partner, not even understanding why. And he, bewildered and conf...
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Going Back and Forth

A Signficant Other View
By Julie Freeman

julie39@comcast.net
January, 2012
Going Back and Forth

One of the wives posed an interesting question on our forum. I have been on this forum for probably well over a decade and have never seen it posed before.
"I wonder how things would be different if my DH just wanted to be a girl rather than part male/part female. Do you think it makes it too conflicting having to go back and forth for the spouses?"
I thought that would certainly make an interesting topic at a social get-together of crossdressers and their wives. Is it difficult going back and forth? But for the time being, I can only refer to the responses of other wives on the forum.
The question as it appeared was interpreted in two different ways. In this instance, the writer when mentioning spouses was referring to the husbands-- whether or not a crossdresser found it conflicting having to go back and forth between female and male mode. So some of the responses to that interpretation were as follows:
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On Coming Back Home

A Significant Other View
by Julie Freeman


February 2015
Reprinted here by permission. Posted January 28, 2017

On Coming Back Home

An interesting situation was reported by the significant other of a crossdresser who is home from overseas. He is very closeted, depressed, and I believe at this point in his life, feels he has no other choices in dealing with his life.
Laura, his significant other, has been having private email communication with her boyfriendÕs mother because of his depression. Apparently he does not know about the relationship between his mother and Laura, especially considering that he and his family live over 4,000 miles away.
It is not totally clear from the emails whether the crossdresser lives at home when he is not overseas or whether he lives with his girlfriend.
But what happened shortly after the boyfriend was back at home, his mother went through his clothing and discovered ÒNina.Ó While his mother did not specifically refer to any particular item, she simply menti...
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