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Complicated and Complex Behavior

A Significant Other View
By Julie Freeman

This article is reprinted with permission from DEVIL WOMAN, the Diablo Valley Girls newsletter. Ms Freeman is the wife of a crossdresser. She can be reached at Julie39@comcast.net

Complicated and Complex Behavior

Posted Jan 13, 2014


Recently, I mentioned that I belonged to some spirituality groups. Through these groups, I have met some very nice, interesting men and women, and have had coffee with a couple of the women a few times. We talk about everything, and I felt comfortable in telling them about my life with a crossdresser. They were very understanding, interested, and definitely non-judgmental as I knew they would be. I also knew that I had mentioned it once before to one of the women, but I don't think she remembered. And we, significant others, have in the past feared telling someone because we thought they would always be thinking about it when in reality many forget over ...
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Growing Up Transgendered

A Significant Other View
by Julie Freeman


Originally puplished in "Devil Woman", August 2015
Republished here by permission February 4, 2017

Growing Up Transgendered

With all the attention and concentration on transgendered today, it comes as no real surprise to find a different television show every week dealing with one or more issues facing those with gender identity concerns. Some shows may have been pure entertainment while others were well-done documentaries.
One show that I saw recently dealt specifically with children who knew from a very early age on that their gender did not match their physical body. It was amazing how articulate and intelligent these young children were.
Most had not yet reached puberty and the issue these young children and their parents were facing was whether or not to start a regimen of "puberty delaying" medications. This would give the child more time to determine whether he or she...
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Interesting Questions


A Significant Other View
by Julie Freeman


Orignally published in "Devil Women" September 2014
Republished here by permission February 4, 2017

Interesting Questions

At a recent gathering, some interesting questions were posed by a member to a group of significant others.
Is it easier for a wife, if her father is a crossdresser rather than her husband?
Is it easier for a mother, if her son is a crossdresser rather than her husband?
A few of us talked at length about both questions and pretty much decided that a wife generally would never think of "'divorcing" her father or her son. But divorcing a husband is certainly not uncommon.
So why is this? In many cases, of course, the father may live in another town, perhaps even in another state. Certainly the contact is not the same as that with a husband.
A transgendered son, if adult, may well live in another area as well. So once...
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Turn-around

A Significant Other View
by Julie Freeman


Originally published in "Devil Woman" in January 2015

Republished here by permission, February 2017

Turn-around

It was with a degree of shock when I read a letter from a wife expressing her complete turn-around with crossdressing.
Just a few months ago, she joined our on-line support group, but quickly became annoyed and bothered by those few wives who seemed to accept crossdressing with little hesitation. She even thought the group was not for her because she just couldn't find anything acceptable about what her husband wanted to do.
She had thought she would find only a group of like-minded wives who would grouse, complain, and overall trash crossdressing and any activities associated with it like finding support groups, going to activities, and shopping, of course.
I did not expect her to remain on the list for very long as so many wives who do not find the support they were ex...
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Always Asked

Notes on Gender Role Transition
Anne Vitale Ph.D. Editor
A Significant Other View
by Julie Freeman

This article is reprinted with permission from DEVIL WOMAN, the Diablo Valley Girls newsletter. Ms Freeman is the wife of a crossdresser. She can be reached at Julie39@comcast.net

Always Asked

I generally attend a meeting for significant others about every three months, usually because they are held at my home. Invariably a wife who is new to crossdressing attends and without fail two questions are asked. "Is my husband gay?" and "Does he want to be a woman?" These certainly were the first two questions that crossed my mind several years ago when I first became aware of my husband's crossdressing.

Why do we think this? Like most of society, for us the only crossdressers we ever saw were drag queens, some of whom are quite open about their homosexuality. Who else dressed like a woman? And we certainly were not aware of the difference between crossdressers and drag queens, a...
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