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Joy in Crossdressing

A Significant Other View
by Julie Freeman

This article is reprinted with permission from DEVIL WOMAN, the Diablo Valley Girls newsletter. Ms Freeman is the wife of a crossdresser. She can be reached at Julie39@comcast.net

Joy in Crossdressing

At a recent conference, one of the seminars for wives included a discussion of whether or not joy could be found in crossdressing. Not on the part of the crossdresser--that is pretty well known. But whether or not there is joy in the relationship on the part of the significant other. This was part of the research that Peggy Rudd is conducting for a book she hopes to publish sometimes this year.

Now most significant others were not aware of crossdressing prior to their first relationship with a crossdresser. Most would say that they would have preferred crossdressing not to have become part of their world. But there are a few wives who have made crossdressing a prerequisite to a SECOND marriage or relationship. These are the significant others who have found joy...
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Giving Advice

A Significant Other View
by Julie Freeman

This article is reprinted with permission from DEVIL WOMAN, the Diablo Valley Girls newsletter. Ms Freeman is the wife of a crossdresser. She can be reached at Julie39@comcast.net

Giving Advice

Wives and partners, known as "significant others" in the gender community, are frequently asked for advice by those new to the gender community. At support groups for significant others, it is not uncommon for the leader to ask for questions from the group and then seek answers from the same group. Generally, those new will ask the questions and those not so new will give the answers.

Unfortunately, there are no easy answers to many of the questions asked, but easy answers are frequently given. "Do you think my husband wants to be a woman?" is probably the most frequently asked question. And perhaps too quickly another wife will respond, "Oh, no, he is just experiencing gender euphoria. Give him a few months and he will settle down." Or a...
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Safety

A Significant Other View
by Julie Freeman

This article is reprinted here with permission from DEVIL WOMAN, the Diablo Valley Girls newsletter. Ms Freeman is the wife of a crossdresser. She can be reached at Julie39@comcast.net

Safety

As a child, I was no stranger to danger. My parents, very outspoken, felt it their duty to make certain that we children understood what it is like to walk a picket line, to participate in a sit-in, boycott an industry, march down Main Street in protest of some action they found unconscionable, etc. It is then not unexpected that at one point I was shunned by neighborhood children who found my parents' politics not to their liking. I, being quite young, did not understand at all why my friends deserted me. I only knew that it hurt. It was also not unexpected to find that we were forced to move across the country because my father was unable to find a job that not only met his needs but also could support us.

So as I grew older, I found myself shying away from any pu...
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Don't Call Me a Lesbian

A Significant Other View
by Julie Freeman

This article is reprinted here with permission from DEVIL WOMAN, the Diablo Valley Girls newsletter. Ms Freeman is the wife of a crossdresser. She can be reached at Julie39@comcast.net

Don't Call Me a Lesbian

It seems that one of the greatest fears that significant others voice is that of becoming a lesbian. Just how do they see this happening? By simply in any way shape or form somehow letting crossdressing into their lives. This fear is very real and very prevalent, usually voiced by wives newly discovering their husbands' femme side. They believe that their husbands, when crossdressed, somehow are no longer the man they knew and married, but have somehow turned into a woman. They believe that by becoming accepting in any way, no matter how small, that turns them into a lesbian. Forget the fact that they are not attracted to women and have never been. Just having another nightgown in bed with them does the trick!

And their hatred of lesbianism is v...
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A Matter of Respect

A Significant Other View
by Julie Freeman

This article is reprinted here with permission from DEVIL WOMAN, the Diablo Valley Girls' newsletter. Ms Freeman is the wife of a crossdresser. She can be reached at Julie39@comcast.net

A Matter of Respect

I have always wondered why crossdressers want to be like women. Haven't they observed how women are treated in our culture? It is acceptable for men to be forceful and even demanding - it is called being assertive. For women, if they are forceful, it is called being aggressive and is considered unsatisfactory. This double standard is accepted not only by men, but also by women.

Have you ever watched a news show such as Inside Washington or the McLaughlin Report? Perhaps you noticed that the women are interrupted frequently by the male panel members, not allowed to finish their thoughts when allowed to speak, and are generally ignored when trying to make their viewpoint known. Sometimes they are even laughed at, almost like they are "cute child...
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